Yesterday, over dinner, Roomie and Kdub discussed "the perfect wife." Though I did not partake in this conversation, I heard bits and pieces of it from both of them. From what I gathered, Kdub's idea of the perfect wife is built upon being a virgin; an uncharted sexual territory. If she marries her current boyfriend, then she will be fulfilling this ideal. I'm not sure what other qualities her perfect wife possesses, but I found it interesting to think of what kind of perfect wife I would like to be.
The first thing that comes to mind is sexy. Perhaps in the way she walks, or the way she talks or just the little things she does when no one is watching. I suppose everyone has a different standard of sexy, but I think Salma Hayek's character in Fools Rush In (one of my favoritest movies) epitomizes it. There is a scene where Matthew Perry is watching her as she makes dinner and he's in awe of her. That's perfect wife material and I'm sure anyone who has seen the movie would agree.
In my opinion, other components of the perfect wife are thoughtfulness, having her own interests and the foresight to plan for the future. Perhaps I'm taking the easy way out in my description of the perfect wife with the potentially ill-conceived notion that I'm already near-perfect. Maybe what I should be including among the "perfect wife" requirements is actually vulnerability and being able to depend on someone else. I know those are things that I struggle with. And in a union, in a partnership, a marriage, there has to be room for that interdependency.
I think that I'm only able to admit that after reading an email that E sent to me.
Sex is easy. I've never had any problems with sex, but love, it seems to allude me. I feel like there is a force field around me that prevents anyone from penetrating my heart. Ugh... how do I fix this?
future installment: the perfect husband
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