Just Sexual Monogamy?

Is it possible to have a sexually monogamous relationship without actually dating someone? What if its a trial period prior to a real relationship? I think the fact that I'm even posing these questions demonstrates the hedonism that has infiltrated our society, or at least in my life. People have sexual needs, but not far beyond that there is a need for some sort of romantic connection, even if it is just for one night or maybe a series of them.

I think sexual monogamy without a relationship (SMWR) is a sophisticated way of saying friends with benefits, or maybe an updated way because maybe its not necessary to be friends or perhaps the relationships are more complex than "friends."

The pro of SMWR is obviously the accessible and familiar hookup. It is something that can be depended on and since it is monogamous you don't have to worry about the other person hooking up with other people.

The con of SMWR is the potential confusion and the uncertainty of when the agreement could end. Honestly, the cons could far outweigh the pros, but if you're not ready for a relationship, this is a viable alternative.

SMWR could be a precursor to a more meaningful relationship in the future. The sexual waters have already been tested and approved so there is a level of comfort already established. SMWR could easily metamophose into a relationship because a connection is developed and nurtured, however, this could be a case that blindsides you if it was not the intention of both parties involved.

I'm not quite clear on my feelings about SMWR, but its something that I am considering because I'm not quite sure what I want in terms of a relationship. On one hand I want to keep my options open when it comes to meeting new people. On the other hand I want the security of having someone to be physically intimate with now and again. Perhaps this is selfish, but can you compromise when it comes to finding someone to love? I'm an idealist and believe in true love, but I also realize the importance of timing and other dynamics that have to be considered and weighed in a relationship. As we mature, there are more factors to take into account when it comes to choosing a mate. Since things don't always fall into place at the right time with the right person, SMWR might provide a good rest stop or comfort zone for a bit. Ultimately, every individual SMWR agreement is different because of the people involved. SMWR is not a perfect system. It requires willing and forthcoming individuals in order to be executed properly.

I think the reason that this is an appealing option to me is because I am probably not ready for a relationship and would simply like to create something that I am comfortable with on my own terms for the time being. I don't like the idea of being tied down, though I realize that is not what a relationship is about. Maybe I'm just biding my time until Mr. Perfect comes to life. These thoughts, like myself, are still a work in progress. Who knows where this idea is going to go?