dumbfounded

Today marks the second time that I've heard from a guy (in my life or on his way out...?) that he wants someone who is in need, or who has problems. Let's ponder this. Does this make sense to anyone?

I've always wanted to be the girl that has her ish together. Somewhere in my path of social awareness and self discovery, I decided that being a mess, physically, emotionally, or mentally was not attractive - clearly not everyone shares this opinion.

Maybe guys have some sort of wounded bird complex and want to be with someone who makes them feel manly? Though I can think of some female friends of mine who enjoy the caretaker role and want to nurse someone into a more positive state, I can not say I understand it. Support is a necessary function of relationships, but I don't think rehabilitation is a normal one.

Are guys trying to tell me something? That I need to be some sort of victim or addict? Apparently guys want girls with some sort of defect. This doesn't really make sense seeing that no one is perfect, though I guess I come frighteningly close...

I've seen the opposite of this dynamic as well. There are guys out there who want girls to fix them! What is going on here? Where are the normal people?! Relationships aren't meant for therapy! Admittedly, we are all Works in Progress, but I don't think that we should use people as crutches.

I was in a long distance relationship with the last guy I dated and he could not keep himself together when he was away from me. Sure, it was a little sweet to know that he was so distraught with missing me, but it ultimately gave me a needy vibe. Turns out, he has an addictive personality, when it wasn't me it was alcohol or marijauna.

So, where does this all leave me? I am not sure. I think it's entirely possible that there is some issue that I have that I am avoiding, but this is my blog and there's my rant.