So, I have decided to put the name change on hold, indefinitely. I don't mind going by Mrs. J socially, but something doesn't sit right with being Mrs. J professionally (regardless of whether I have a job or not!). I feel like if I were to take on a new last name, it would be erasing a part of my identity. With a name like HT, I don't think many would confuse me with Suzie Whitebread, but I feel if I changed my name, the marriage would be defining me as a person.
J doesn't think this makes any sense and thinks that as a family we should have the same last name. I want our children to have his last name and I want to be recognized as Mrs. J when it comes to J and kids (when and if they come). It's just that at work and on my resume, I want to be the same HT that I've been for the past 28 years.
Anyway, this has put my visit to the social security office on hold. I still need to visit the DMV though because I need to update my address. With all this unemployed time on my hands, it is really a great time to knock this out...
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